The Passive Rejection & Unreturned affection.

Another day, another life lesson. Today’s realization: passive rejection and how to cope with unreturned affection. 

Allow me to illustrate the setting. NY- tristate region, victim for the 7th time this winter to a blizzard, 65% of the local hotel staff are snow bound at their prospective property. However, this time a lucky girl and a special guy ( who have on a previous occasion succumbed to pleasures of the flesh) are stranded in the same building as opposed to neighboring buildings. So girl sees guy in the lobby on the phone, waves hello because guy is in deep conversation. Girl is acknowledged, texts are exchanged later that evening. In the midst of text communication ( which girl finds odd considering the circumstances, but dismisses her ill feelings), she ventures around the corner to get a soda. In the hall of the vending machine she sees guy chasing another female down the hall, guy seems to see girl but continues to chase other female. 

In shock and dismay girl gets soda and returns to the room. She processes what has just happened, confused she shares the happenings with her friend. The friend that braved the hazardous elements to spend the night in this wild blizzard. Anyway, the conclusion the girl comes to is that the guy, despite expressed interest both verbally and physically, has passively indicated that he is not interested. He has said through action that you are rejected! 

SOOOOOOOOOOO what do you do when words of someone do not reconcile with their actions? Of course you are pissed, hurt, and all you want to do is want to yell & scream. Instead you have to breathe deep and gain composure.

So I confess I am that girl. The rejected, and how I have decided to deal with the situation is to ignore the rejection and act as though we never liked each other in the first place. We work for the same company after all, and the physical interaction was minimal-one time event. Of course I am hurt but sometimes it is not even worth the trouble. Because ultimately nothing will come of me expressing my hurt and disappointment. He had a choice and he did not choose me. I am fully attune to the fact that you cannot make a guy like you. I am done being confused by this weirdo dude and I am moving the fuck on. 

Also I neglected to mention that I was called into work at 3am because the useless night auditor called out. I informed the weirdo to this fact and subsequently after seeing him with another girl he texted “i can’t believe you are going in at 3am, that’s incredible.” Clearly if you’re not acknowledging the passive rejection I won’t (you socially awkward mother fucker).  Fast forward to 3am and homie texts “Wake up!” “I did not ask you to be my wake up call jerk,” I think to myself. 

This guy is beyond strange and I do not even know why I wanted to share my body with him in the first place. 

Also, the girl I think he was with is a fellow co-worker, but I am not quite sure. However, when I tried to confirm her whereabouts via another coworker the info he provided didn’t match up. I think I was being lied to but whatever. Moving forward! On to bigger and better things.